There are always tight places in our lives. Places where things go wrong out of "nowhere". But those places come from somewhere and serve a distinct purpose. They directly impact our freedom and comfort.
Be still and examine where your freedom and comfort have been hampered, stymied, or removed. Then listen to the words you're using to comfort others as you're going through.
Those words are for YOU.
Then listen to the next message that comes from their mouths... Understanding that it's God talking through them to YOU.
And do what needs to be done, walking with confidence and in joy.